Reasons to stay together or not
Bad reasons to stay together
A break is never a happy event.
But, sometimes it’s best to look yourself in the eyes and face the truth, that you no longer have anything in common.
There is no need to continue your relationship. However, some couples still get together for the very wrong reasons, such as fear, laziness or nostalgia. Here are 20 of the worst excuses not to go each way.
You stay together for the material pleasures
The idea of waving goodbye to the car, traveling less and living on a tighter budget is not a good reason to try to get the relationship back to work. There must be nothing but material pleasures at stake if you are considering singular life again.
You stay together for the sake of the children
It’s a really bad idea to stay together for the sake of the children. They are not stupid. They know that it’s been downhill. A break will not harm them if you prepare them well. Another bad reason to stay together – even worse than that with the kids – is to avoid sharing the right to … the pet.
You will be together for fear of the next
Changes can really be scary. None of us know what life will offer us. Often we see only the negative instead of considering a new beginning as the chance to start over again with love.
You have fake hopes
It’s time to stop the relationship immediately if you try to convince yourself that everything must “loosen” by itself, magically, even if you no longer sincerely believe in it. Living in hope is not a healthy foundation to build a relationship.
You stay together because you are “too old”
Alone in our age? Never! What a disaster! But the ages should not refrain from wanting a satisfying and loving relationship. Love has no age, and there is no last shelf life to live as single again.
You stay together to avoid regret anything
When we make important decisions, we may be afraid to choose the wrong one. Often we overwhelm thoughts of possible regrets. “What if I’m wrong?”, “What if I regret?”, “What if if?”, “What now …?”
You stay together to keep the house
A house can have great affective value for many people. You can not imagine staying anywhere else. But it would be impossible to cope with one income. Then you become in an unfair relationship, just to stay in the dream house.
You stay together to share the house work
The only idea of living alone and having to do all the housework itself can also get some couples to give the relationship a chance (or even more to?). But it’s not a good idea to stay together just because you ask yourself who else will hit the grass.
You get together with guilt
Guilt will appear if you decide to leave the relationship. You’re sorry to cause so much pain. The guilty feelings may be strong enough for you to remain, even if your heart tells you that you should go.
You have to get used to being alone
You will be together for the sake of money
You get together for fear of other people’s reactions
You stay together for fear of being alone
You stay together for the sake of sex
You stay together because you have the same friends
You stay together to avoid moving
You get together because of extortion
You stay together, to not feel it as a defeat
You stay together because you promised it
Well-meaning promises like “I’ll change me …”, “We’re trying to get help this time …” and “I promise that …” should not affect your decision. Are not just empty words? Look at the reality and not on the promises when the decision is to be taken.
